Play-Learn-Grow-Repeat

Parenting is hard. Divorce is hard. Life is hard. But when you mix the three…. it really is triple the difficulty! I have purposely not shared too deeply about my divorce. But I have been blogging for months now, so you might as well know about my struggles;  perhaps someone out there is going through the same struggles.

I am the primary parent with sole physical custody. This means that he does see daddy for a few hours each week, but nearly all of the time, he is with mama. Daddy’s house is always an adventure: his 2 year old cousin visiting, parties, grandparents visiting constantly, trips to construction zones, etc.. Now, don’t get me wrong, I feel that it is WONDERFUL that Brady and daddy get to do all of the fun stuff in their limited time. However, there are no rules and no discipline at all. Now in my ex husbands defense, I have always been the sole disciplinarian.

This, of course, puts me in an awkward position. It breaks my heart when Brady tells me that daddy is his best friend, daddy loves him more, daddy buys him everything, daddy’s house is better, etc.. Of course, I realize he is four years old, and I need to be his mama, not his best friend. He has many friends, but only one mama. I also realize that I love him just as much as daddy, and during a divorce, some parents (and other outsiders) may make comments that make Brady feel confused about what love means and how more than one person CAN (and DOES) love him. But, that doesn’t make my heart hurt any less. I just hope that as he grows older he understands how many people love him and put his best interests first – always. That is the best any parent can ever do, right?