From Friday Mom – Jaime:
I remember growing up that my parents took us to Disney often. We would usually go (like the rest of the world) over that week between Christmas and New Years while school was closed. We’d pair it with a visit to see my grandma, spending part of the week with her and the rest of the week down in Orlando. I loved it.
After the past couple days, I have a whole new appreciation for what my parents must have gone through taking me and my sister there…
We took Andrew to Disneyland for the first time this week. He was so excited to see Mickey and Minnie. To go somewhere new. To ride the rides. To try and get selected for Jedi training.
We spent the first day over in the California Adventure, where Carsland resides. It was cool. Andrew loved it. He managed to sit (mostly) still for a parade. He cried because he couldn’t do the Radiator Springs Racers, but we promised there would be time to do what he wanted the next day. To be honest, he held it together well that first day.
The second day, when we cruised around Disneyland’s main park, was a totally different story. We got there when it opened at 10. We didn’t bring Andrew back to the hotel for a nap. He insisted he didn’t need one. We probably shouldn’t have listened to him.
He bawled when he didn’t get picked to do Jedi training. (I was disappointed too – the Jedi master chose every kid around him, except for Andrew.) He stomped his feet and pouted when we told him he was running off too far ahead of us. He growled at us when we didn’t do what he wanted to do the second he wanted to do it. He threw a full blown temper tantrum because I didn’t want to carry a stuffed animal around the park all day, but promised to buy him something later in the day. I have never seen this kid flip out so badly as when he managed to spit not one, but two, Starbursts out of his mouth and I wouldn’t let him have another one.
But as he was freaking out over nothing, I looked around at some of the other parents. A guy waiting to take his kids on the Dumbo ride practically had to take a flying leap to catch his daughter before she fell off the wall she was walking on. A mom got so pissed off at her kid that she stomped out of line and walked away from her daughter completely. Kids on leashes were trying to attach their tethers to other kids. Tears flowed freely. Parents’ angers ran high while patience reached an all time low.
It made me feel a silent sense of camaraderie with the other parents, as well as overwhelming joy in the moments when MY kid was behaving well and other parents’ children weren’t.
There probably was a better way to do Disney. Like with naps. Like planning it out better and doing what the books suggest – don’t hit the stuff closest to the gate the second you walk in. Don’t jump on the rides with no wait times immediately – go to the stuff you need FastPasses for and hop on a line. They’re just going to get worse as the day rolls on… Like asking when the characters go on break. After Andrew lost it completely when he failed to be able to see Donald, Chip or Dale because “the line closed,” a very nice park worker told us when the characters took their breaks and that the lines to see them closed 10 minutes before break time. That small, yet key, piece of knowledge, created a far better experience for all of us and landed Andrew some solid time with the characters!
Vacations with kids are tough. Traveling can be difficult. Keeping them occupied on a long car ride, or flight, is challenging. But tackling what is supposedly the happiest place on earth? We all should get hazard pay for that one.
It’s almost enough to make you wonder why in the world you’d go back again after a day’s worth of tears, temper tantrums and failure to listen. But when you look back on the trip, from the comfort of your couch after you’ve returned home and the blisters on your feet from walking around all day for several days in a row have started to heal, you remember the look on your son’s (or daughter’s) face the first time they saw Cinderella’s castle. Or that expression of total awe as he looks up at Mickey Mouse. Or how he grabbed your hand excitedly, trying to drag you to forward faster than his feet will really carry him, just so he can bring you on a favorite ride ONE MORE TIME before the park closes because he has to share the experience with you…
And thinking back on THOSE moments, you know you’re going to go again. Because anything that makes him THAT happy…it has to be worth it, right?