Still Fighting
Friday, November 11th, 2016From Friday Mom – Erin:
Okay, I promise this will be the last week I write about bedtime.
But I am losing the battle. Completely. Rory is currently asleep on the couch for the fourth night in a row. I know. That’s dangerous precedent. We’re undoing good habits. But he’s literally crawling out of bed over, and over, and over, and over again each evening. After an hour or so of fighting, I’ve given in, needing to get back to work or handle chores around the house, I have been resorting to the silent treatment, waiting for him to curl up on the couch, covering him up, and carrying him to bed much later in the night.
It has to stop.
This evening I’ve been researching techniques on limit setting and how to re-train a pre-schooler who is challenging the bedtime norm. I’ve read most of it before and know that we have to be consistent, persistent, and ready to deal with an hour or more of walking him back to bed, again, again, and again. But I just wish he’d managed to hit this impasse at a time when we both had a little more time to do it. I know how harsh and unsympathetic that sounds. As though I am a parent that doesn’t have time for my child. As though it’s my fault that he is acting out.
Trust me, that’s probably why we’ve been so bad at nipping this in the bud sooner. But starting tomorrow, this is it. No snuggling on the couch, no “one more goodnight;” just bedtime. And that’s that.